Love & Simulated Pregnancy

I give Juan a lift to his (ex)girlfriend. We ride on one of Cape Town’s highways to reach her workplace, a pub. They haven’t seen each other since she simulated a pregnancy. When we arrive Marika smiles. Both disappear. I sit at the bar and think of reasons why she could have simulated the pregnancy. ‘Men . . . → Read More: Love & Simulated Pregnancy

Male Mother Worried about Becoming (Grand)Father

‘He’s definitely not a man at this stage,’ Juan’s father Willem asserts. We sit in the lounge of his apartment in Paradise Park. His son told him lately that he might become a dad. ‘What? Dad?!’ was the seniors first response. Willem tried to be as composed as possible and immediately raised practical issues. He urged . . . → Read More: Male Mother Worried about Becoming (Grand)Father

Fatherhood on the Edge: A Pregnancy Test Drama

Juan gesticulates me to the veranda. ‘I have news,’ he frowns and looks to the ground with a mixture of excitement and remorse. We always talk about personal stuff outside. There is little privacy in the flat. Outside he starts to talk about his weekend. We went to his ex-girlfriend’s bar. I left when I deemed . . . → Read More: Fatherhood on the Edge: A Pregnancy Test Drama

How to Bully a War ‘Veteran’?

‘Steek hom!’ Roland suddenly yells. Jimmy, a man in his 40ies, quivers as if he was hit by a lightning. ‘Aaahh, fuck!’ he swears and bows down quickly while burying his head in his arms. Then he comes up again. ‘Mommy!’ one of the young men adds sarcastically in a shrill tone. The others . . . → Read More: How to Bully a War ‘Veteran’?

Becoming a father: News from George

I meet George on a parking in front of a supermarket. He is happy to see me and so am I. The young man and his wife Tiffany moved into a new home a couple of weeks ago, since we haven’t met. Tiffany doesn’t feel well. “She is vomiting and does not want you to see . . . → Read More: Becoming a father: News from George

A Strange Encounter: The Progenitor as Non-Father

Dogs are barking. We have to pass one of them enclosed between the outer and the inner gate of the backyard. “Watch out for the landmines,” George pointed to the dog’s feces on the concrete ground. A women dressed in a green bathrobe made out of terry cloth welcomed us warmly in front of a wooden . . . → Read More: A Strange Encounter: The Progenitor as Non-Father

How to join a Fatherhood Circle?

Tonight I make my way along the slopes of Table Mountain into one of the wealthiest neighborhoods at the Cape located between wine yards, oak, and pine trees. I pass trough an automatic security gate excited to join a newly established fatherhood circle. I am welcomed and instructed about the rules of each session. Tonight there . . . → Read More: How to join a Fatherhood Circle?