Mythic Poison: A Man Fears his Wife

‘The stress is gonna kill me,’ Lukaya points out and refers to his high blood pressure. He sits on a toolbox in a shed made out of corrugated iron shining bright like silver. I feel sorry about him. More than three years ago he welcomed me into his house ‘like a son’. He did not want . . . → Read More: Mythic Poison: A Man Fears his Wife

A Man Bewitched: Relationship Problems Reconsidered

“Each and every day we had problems. We fought about little things. Then I wasn’t even able to get a job. Things were not going the way they are supposed to be. You know I have some qualifications. I tried to sell my CV but there was no response. Then we went to an older woman . . . → Read More: A Man Bewitched: Relationship Problems Reconsidered

Out of the Womb into the Womb: A Xhosa Initiation Ritual Transformed

Mcendisi receives a call. His ex-girlfriend informs him that today there will be his son’s imbeleko – a Xhosa ritual performed to introduce a child to his or her ancestors. “How can she expect me to be there on such a short notice?” Mcendisi says disturbed. The relationship with the mother of his son and her . . . → Read More: Out of the Womb into the Womb: A Xhosa Initiation Ritual Transformed

Should ‘poor’ men have children? Reflections on Cultural Difference

“I want to make a girl pregnant. I want to have a child, too.” Bill, a young Xhosa man, concludes when he sees his friend’s son for the first time. “He looks like him!” Precociously I ask: “Why do you want to have a child? You know that you can’t support it.” The young men counters . . . → Read More: Should ‘poor’ men have children? Reflections on Cultural Difference